Quote#Courage
We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward…
Quote byCharles Cooley · 1864–1929
Commonly attributed — not confirmed in an authoritative edition. Cited on Wikiquote to: Human Nature and the Social Order, 1902, p. 184-5 (1922).
English (original)
We are ashamed to seem evasive in the presence of a straightforward man, cowardly in the presence of a brave one, gross in the eyes of a refined one, and so on. We always imagine, and in imagining share, the judgments of the other mind. A man will boast to one person of an action — say some sharp transaction in trade-^which he would be ashamed to own to another.
— Charles Cooley
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